Wednesday, October 21, 2026
The feeling of being "belonged to somewhere" rather than being "just a spare part"
Tuesday, April 14, 2026
How it feels to have PDA
Good evening everyone!
It's now been a fair few months since I was last on here, and for a good reason too... I have had the pleasure of working at Aurora Poppyfield School from the end of January to keep me busy, which I can say is very similar to Grafham Grange. Only with a fewer behavioural challenges. Unfortunately, my time there has now come to an end after Easter break due to permanent staff being hired in each class.
During my time at Poppyfield, I got to expand my knowledge of SEMH and how it differently affects different pupils in each class. Much like in every previous SEMH school settings I have worked in after Grafham. Also during my time working at Poppyfield, I got to gain more skills in working with students who happen to have something called Pathological Demand Avoidance, or PDA for short.
There was this one boy in year 7, who I was working closely with a majority of my time at the school, who had a complex level of needs. All of which include, ASD, ADHD, SEMH, Trauma, SPD, and of course... PDA. Obviously, I will not be naming this person for identification protection reasons, but I can share with you what I have learned about PDA just from spending time with this pupil, and turning it into another insightful post.
Sunday, February 1, 2026
The SEND crisis
Monday, December 1, 2025
A year into working in education...
- Bramley Oak Academy (for 1 day)
- Grafham Grange (now Bramley Grange Academy for 6 months)
- Gosden House (for 1 day)
- Merrist Wood College SEN department (1 week)
- Leith Hill School (3 days)
- Carwarden House (3 days)
- Pond Meadow (1 day)
- Brooklands School (1 day)
- Hollywater School (1 day)
- St Joseph's Trust (2 days)
Thursday, November 27, 2025
A year into my SEMH journey...
Good evening everyone, just a quick for tonight, as this will be the only time I will get to make an appearance on here this week. This was also a post I was meant to do for this Tuesday, but I had non-work related demands to do throughout that day.
As of this Tuesday (25th of November), it officially marks 1 year that I've been on an SEMH journey! And what a challenging, but fascinating journey it has been for the past 12 months too, as before that, I have had absolutely no idea that the acronym SEMH exists, let alone what SEMH consists of as well within young people I work with during my past year of working in education as well. (I will get round to doing another post about my 1 year journey working in education too, don't you worry!😉)
As a reminder for those of you who are new to my blog, and do not know what SEMH stands for, it stands for social, emotional, mental health. This is a term to describe a young person who experiences difficulties with functioning in social settings due to mental health complications. Along with this, young people with SEMH display challenging behaviours due to some trauma that they have experienced in their early stages of life.
As some of you will already know, as well as for those who are, again. new to my blog, I have spent a good 6 months working at a SEMH school in Surrey, where they cater for SEMH pupils. I started there on the 25/11 of last year - the 23/05 of this year through an education agency. Although my SEMH journey continued from that point on too by working in similar SEMH settings.
During those 6 months, I have learned a hell of a lot about how SEMH impacts a young person's functioning, interactions & how they vision the world. Even though the trauma that comes with SEMH is not something I'd wish on anybody, I am more amazingly baffled of how the creative & determined side of SEMH plays a hugely positive part on an SEMH young person's overall development.
This is due to the fact that SEMH can form a link of best friends to co-occur with it, such as ASD or ADHD.
As I've seen for myself whilst working at Grafham Grange for 6 months, I have come across some very knowledgeable young pupils when it came to having a conversation with them about their hobbies/interests/aspirations. They will go to great lengths to know the ins & outs of something, and they take wonderful pride in sharing that knowledge with us too!
This was also the same case from when I had spend 3 days working at Leith Hill School, as I've had the pleasure of getting to know the pupils there by having conversations with them about things that interest them, as well as seeing them interact with one another who all have the same primary educational need.
In a nutshell, I feel very privileged to obtain all of this in-dept knowledge of SEMH, including getting to work in schools consisting of SEMH pupils.
Long may it continue.
Wednesday, November 19, 2025
The pros & cons of being an agency LSA
- Meeting new people everyday - One of the things I really love about my job as an agency LSA, is that I get to meet different pupils, and learn many things about them. I never know, I may even learn something from one of them or more!...
- Getting to know how each school's curriculum works - I enjoy absorbing the knowledge of how each I school I've been into is ran, as this will be useful for me to pass onto anyone who wants to know if those school settings should be recommended to their children or children they know. Moreover, different schools have different vibes!
- Seeing familiar faces - Some of the schools I have worked in, I have seen some young people that I know of from Challengers (my Saturday & holiday job). Again, I enjoy absorbing the knowledge of that some young people from most of the Challengers schemes I have worked at attend these school settings.
- Not getting enough time to know the pupils well - Most of the schools I have worked in (with the exception of Grafham Grange) have only been for 1 day here, a few days there & another few days somewhere else. On an honest level, I really love getting to know the pupils I work with well, as this helps me to build a good, positive & trusting relationship with them by understanding how their mind works. Especially when they eventually gain enough trust in me to be their listening ear if they need/want to offload their thoughts.
- Low expectations from teachers - The one thing that really frustrates me the most about being an agency LSA, is that the teachers in the classes I get put into do not explain to me how best to be proactive in the class or how best to engage with each pupil. All this does is not only set me up to fail if I'm doing one or more days of trail shifts, but feel like I'm only present in the class as a "spare part".
- Little - no support from agencies - Another thing that really frustrates me about this line of work, is that some agencies (and I've registered onto about 10 different ones during October) will be very dismissive of your needs/requests. In the case of some agencies I'm with, I say to them that I specifically do not want to be placed into a school where I have to work with screaming non-verbal children, as I do not have much experience of working with them, but they'll still do it anyway when they call me up asking if I am available to work on the day they call me, all simply because for the purpose of the school giving THEM wages when these agencies fill school classes up with agency LSA's to fill in the holes, as well as keep the schools running as normal.
Monday, October 6, 2025
The lighter side of SEMH
Thursday, September 4, 2025
How spending so much time out of an education setting can have a devastating impact on a young person
Monday, July 14, 2025
Tips on how to form a good working relationship with SEMH students
Hello everyone! Hope you're all doing good.
As the above title states, I thought I'd share some useful tips on how to form a good working relationship with SEMH students. This is especially handy for anyone who is looking into going into this industry. Not to mention that the benefits that come out of this feel immensely rewarding too!
However, I must warn you that the process of forming a good relationship with SEMH students can come with a fair share of emotional obstacles along the way... As I have experienced...
DO:
- Be polite by saying "morning" to them - Even if you see the students walking around who you barely know, it's always good to greet them warmly first thing in school. Especially how it can really secretly brighten up their mood, as they may not be warmly spoken to in that manner at home.
- Try to start a friendly conversation with them - Again, if you come across a student you barely interact with, at least pluck up the courage to begin a friendly conversation with them, such as: "How are you doing today X?" Although a majority of the students (especially the ones I didn't interact with much) will tell you to go away at times, at least they will eventually see in time that you are trying to make an effort to get to know them a bit more.
- Be firm with boundaries & behaviour - I know this will be nerve-racking, but you need to be very consistent with verbally telling students about the inappropriate behaviour they are displaying, as well as to firmly inform them of the consequences should they choose to continue with their inappropriate behaviour. Believe me, they will be thanking you inside their heads later, as SEMH kids crave on a sense of security.
- Keep on changing their routine during their school day - If there is 1 thing that SEMH kids HATE the most, it's definitely change. Every structured routine in their school day must be kept the same where possible, as sudden last second changes can REALLY cause SEMH kids to have some serious dysregulations! Trust me, witnessing a SEMH pupil dysregulated is not the prettiest thing to experience.
- Expect or make them do paperwork for the whole lesson - I know this may sound weird to some people, as you'd typically expect any pupil to get on with doing paperwork for an entire lesson, but with SEMH pupils, that is a different story, and this can cause them to feel tired & overwhelmed, as being in a classroom for too long can stress them out due to carrying an excessive amount of energy then other kids from non SEMH school settings.
- Make them feel ashamed of their needs - Just because your purpose is to discipline SEMH pupils when they display inappropriate behaviour, doesn't give you the excuse to blame their needs for who they are as a person. The only thing this will do, is cause SEMH kids to have their confidence crushed, as they cannot change who they are inside.
Monday, June 30, 2025
How having an interest makes you more confident
Hello everyone! Hope you're all having a good day so far.
I've also just realised as I'm typing this post... We're at the halfway point of 2025 already! It's just flown by so quick!😱
Anyway, I've decided to make this blogpost based on something else that I have experienced during my time working at the SEMH school. Every single kid at that school had at least 1 or 2 special interests that made them more confident at being who they are, and how they are not afraid to show that confident & bright side of their personality to others.
Obviously, I will not be naming any names of the pupils that I have witnessed tell or showcased their special interests to me to protect their identity, but the least I can do is be specific about going into their special interests in detail on here.
There was a boy in my Y11 class, who was very fascinated into art. There was even a large, suitcase size art portfolio where all of his artwork is stashed. Every piece of artwork was inspired by the artists that he had learned about. I've seen for myself how more confident he becomes in himself, as he appreciates how much I say how his artwork is very inspirational, and how it gives him a sense of pride; To make him want to do so well in life.
There was another boy in my Y11 class, who has very in-dept knowledge of theme parks & rollercoasters. He can tell me every single fact & trivia about any rollercoaster from across the world! Again, the more I let him share his wide knowledge of theme parks & rollercoasters, the more confident he feels interacting in class, as this gives him a sense of pride.
In some cases, these interests CAN lead to you gaining a job/career in those industries, because there is a certain saying that goes along the lines of: "Choose a job you love, then you'll never have to work a day in your life." Meaning, you thrive so much with doing something you're wholeheartedly interested in, that it takes away the worry of having to apply to any job just for the sake of HAVING to work somewhere, or to show everyone you do actually work to people please them.
I hope this post was helpful to anyone who can relate as well.
I do plan on making more blog posts next month, as I'll have some days free where I've got nothing else "out of work related" planned.
Sunday, October 8, 2023
A little something for #WorldTeachersDay
Hello everyone, I know I'm a bit late on this, but I felt like I wanted to share my say on World Teachers Day.
What is my reason for this? This is because I happen to have a passion for education, and I personally feel like everybody has a right to be educated, regardless of who they are & what they are. Moreover to this point, education gives people opportunities to thrive & become successful in the real world.
This is why I want to provide an insight to what it means to be a teacher. Just to be clear, I am not an actual qualified teacher myself, but I do consider to obtain some teacher-like qualities.
World Teachers Day is purposely aimed at teachers all over the world. They work tirelessly hard to the best of their ability to provide education to anyone anywhere in the world. Asides from providing people with education, teachers will happily go out of their way to ensure that a person is well & happy. After all, a well & happy mindset is a healthy combination to the road of success. Well, in terms of success in education anyway.
With all of that said, teachers all over the world should be applauded for all of their dedication to provide education of all kinds. Some of which do not necessarily have to be in a school, college or university environment, as there are also TV programmes that have teaching in them. For example, Abandoned Engineering, as this programme contains history about old buildings that never got finished.
Imagine a world without any education, let alone any teachers; The world would be at a stand still. And quite literally, because if you think about it, no one would have any knowledge to get things done in the world to keep things moving.
Thursday, September 28, 2023
Why going to an education setting with so much opportunities can make a person thrive in life
Evening all! Hope you're all enjoying your week so far, whatever you're doing. I'm just trying to keep myself as busy as possible with my extra credit & any upcoming work I have with Disability Challengers.
As the title states, I am going to be discussing why an opportunity-filled education setting can really do people with gifted mindsets the world of good. What I mean by this, is how academic people want to be able to excel, as well as show off their learning ability in an education setting like no other.
And I will be using Epsom College for my chosen example.
Why did I choose Epsom College as my example?
I chose Epsom College, because it has so many learning opportunities like no other place does. Well, that's my opinion anyway. In comparison to other education settings, I see that this one has every single opportunity in stock, whereas other places don't. (Not trying to cause offence here)
What really helps support my option, is that I have watched the virtual tour on YouTube. The video consists of 2 students giving you the tour of the place, as well as talking about what their educational life is like for them there. Here's the video in case if you're interested to see for yourself:
How does Epsom College cater for the needs of the gifted?
For starters, Epsom College considers the fact that there are (and still will be) people out there who want to wish to be well educated. Not just to be educated, but to be educated to the very best of standards.
This is done in such a way, because the students who attend there, have an inquisite mindset by wanting to develop their interest in something in every single approachable way possible. It's as if their mindsets are constantly barking at them to be able to learn every bit about what their interested in that will help them what they want to do in the future.
Is there any evidence that those students do well in life after Epsom College?
Yes there is! According to the website, there is evidence that shows the support students get while applying to universities across the UK & abroad. Evidence in the website also include careers talk, discussions of their academic ability & seeking work experience.
Conclusion:
Not every educational setting has to be made out as a stereotypical "Normal place of learning." Primarily because this particular education setting just happens to stand out more than the rest. As a matter if fact, non-typical education settings seem to achieve more praise due to how well they stand out.
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